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I for one, don't have many friends of the opposite sex. Not for lack of trying mind you...it just never seems to work out. The main problem is of course in these types of situations is that one party is only "friends" with the other party because they're hoping that somewhere down the road...somehow...they'll move beyond the friendship stage onto something a little more intimate and romantic in nature. This causes one to question whether the interested party is actually even a friend and unfortunately, in a lot of circumstances, they aren't...not really. They hang around..show interest in your hobbies...always up for whatever fun times there are to be had...but once it clicks in that there's not a chance in hell...they have a way of simply disappearing. Sad as it is...the truth bites.

COCCYGODYNIAN

Female, Age Private, Etobicoke, ON

I for one, don't have many friends of the opposite sex. Not for lack of trying mind you...it just never seems to work out. The main problem is of course in these types of situations is that one party is only "friends" with the other party because they're hoping that somewhere down the road...somehow...they'll move beyond the friendship stage onto something a little more intimate and romantic in nature. This causes one to question whether the interested party is actually even a friend and unfortunately, in a lot of circumstances, they aren't...not really. They hang around..show interest in your hobbies...always up for whatever fun times there are to be had...but once it clicks in that there's not a chance in hell...they have a way of simply disappearing. Sad as it is...the truth bites.

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oh ! friends!

There will always be some sort of attraction between men and women, but, for me, I just know for a fact that some women will never have that kinda place in my heart like some girls will.

I think I've got the same amount of just about more male friends than female. It just seems like when I'm in a new place, it's always the guys that approach first. I never give the wrong impression or atleast try not to when it comes to meeting friends.

It always tends to be that girls either have a quick bond or we "test the waters".. like throw in another friend per se, to see how the person reacts. Then we "go in for the kill".. haha I don't think that makes a good explanation but it's like.. With girls we always suspect that the other girl would be a big b*tch and guys don't, well for guys they either want to get to know you to get close or they have real intentions of befriending you.

I've had friends that I was only friends with for the purpose of hoping to be someday more than friends, but it never works out. I basically based our friendships to his likings and we pretty much weren't on the same page so that sucked. I'm not friends with that person anymore.

No matter what, there's always drama from having girl friends and guy friends. It's the matter of how you handle your relationship with them. I think I've got my balance of both so I'm okay. hah.

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i have a couple close friends, and it works when no sex is involved.

Tho, I may be over-analyzing myself by admitting certain aspects of my personality have typically schizoid behavior i.e. love of nature and books, solitude, a tendency to return to my favourite topics and stick to them to the annoyance of friends...

Nothing psychotic mind you, though the majority of psychoses is benign and non-violent. The root word, psyche, means mind. So psychosis actually means, living in the mind's world; rather than the real world.

Thus, even a fantasy, if prefered over truth; can be a form of psychosis. Even believing that Bush is bad for America could be considered a psychosis if you have a good conspiracy theory that shows signs of a definite delusive disorder!

Having said that, I will point out that unconditional love works best without the distraction of desire and passion. Compassion is just a transpersonal form of passion with sexual overtones so subtle even the Pope will approve of it.

So should it be for platonic friendships with the opposite sex, in the style of Will and Grace, a romantic friendship between people of the opposite who would never sleep with each other.

That is true love.

Romantic love that leads to children and marriage is still human love, due to the drama that unfolds because of the deisre and passion shared.

Romantic friendship that is unconsummated is the purest form of love.

And it is approved by most religions.

The only way you could just be friends with the opposite sex is if you're gay. Other than that, it's pretty hard to stay friends with the opposite sex. I've seen guys pull it off for 2 years, but only to get into their pants and fail.