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(INFIDELITY) WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT??? 777

Posted April 19th, 2008 at 01:55am

SPEAKIN' OF INFIDELITY.....I'D LIKE TO INPUT DIRECTLY FROM A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE......AS TIME PROGRESSES AND A MAN MATURES MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY, FINANCIALLY, PHYSICALLY AND MOST IMPORTANTLY SPIRITUALLY...... THEY START TO UNDERSTAND WHAT IS CONCRETE AND WHAT IS MOST VALUED IN A COUPLES RELATIONSHIP AND THAT IS "STABILITY" AS A PRIME SOLID FOUNDATION....WHEN I WAS 21 YEARS OF AGE I MET WHAT I THOUGHT WAS A WONDERFUL WOMAN AND WORKED VERY HARD FOR HER.....BOUGHT A HOUSE, A FEW CARS AND A DOG.....LOL.....:) AND HAD 2 BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN OF MIXED DESCENT......HALF BLACK AND FILIPINO......777..... AFTER 3 YEARS, I SAW CHANGES WITHIN MY PARTNER THAT I NEVER SAW BEFORE......HER TRUE NATURE SURFACED AND I BECAME A VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE....AS OUR RELATIONSHIP CONTINUED TO SUFFER DURING IT'S 6.5 YEARS OF BEING TOGETHER, I ALSO CAUGHT HER SPENDING MANY A NIGHTS AT ANOTHER MAN'S HOUSE AND LIED IN HER WHEREABOUTS, NOT KNOWING THAT I ALREADY KNEW.....SADLY THROUGH THE VOICE OF MY 3 YEAR OLD SON :( ......AS SHE CONTINUED TO LIE......MY FEELINGS WERE DROWNING AWAY SLOWLY......OUR TROUBLED RELATIONSHIP ENDED ABOUT A YEAR PLUS AGO WHEN I DECIDED TO LEAVE FOR GOOD WITH MY CHILDREN AND MY DOGS...... :) 777................
...........AS FOR ME......I BELIEVE THAT PEOPLE CHEAT EVEN THOUGH THEY'VE BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR YEARS BECAUSE THEY ARE PRE-DISPOSED......MEANING THAT SOME MEN AND WOMEN OUT THERE ARE MORE SUSCEPTIBLE TO TEMPTATIONS THAN OTHERS.....THERE IS SOMETHING INHERENT IN THEM....MAY IT BE THROUGH PAST RELATIONS OR THE WAY THEY'RE RAISED OR MAYBE EVEN BOTH.....THIS IS ONLY ONE FACET OF MANY DIFFERENT SITUATIONS THAT EXIST....WEAKNESS IS ANOTHER...AND GREED......LAST BUT NOT LEAST, LACK OF SPIRITUAL INSIGHT..THE MYSTERY BETWEEN OUR MIND AND OUR BRAIN....IT IS NOT THE SAME....BELIEVE IT OR NOT....:) YET AS FOR ME.....I WISH THAT THERE WAS A RESUME OR SOMETHING LIKE A CREDIT REPORT THAT SHOWS YOUR PAST RELATIONSHIP HISTORY IN WRITING....HEHEHEHEHEHEHE......LOL.....SOMETHING THAT CAN BE VERIFIED BY A THIRD PARTY CALLER....HEHEHEHEHEHEHE.... :) LOLOLOLOLOLOL....YET WE ALL LIVE AND WE ALL LEARN......AND SOMETIMES IT HAS TO TAKE SOMETHING SO DIFFICULT TO BEAR TO OVERCOME AND BECOME MORE WISER.....MORE STRONGER.....MORE LOVING........I WISH THAT THIS 2 CENT MAKES UP THE DOLLAR FOR ALL THE READER IN THIS FORUM......GUIDANCE AND BLESSINGS.......PEACE...777

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SophiaPac

Female, 20, Arcadia, CA

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I agree that some people may just be predisposed. I also personally see cheating as a sign of weakness (but thats just me). Its really nice to see a guy be so straight-up and actually have something to say about a topic other than cars or "chicks" :)

Wish you and your kids all the best. I believe everything happens for a reason; you'll find the right woman :)



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Azmera

Female, 25, Atlanta, GA

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Ummm... Greetings...

As for infidelity,
I do agree to a certain point. The way my mind thinks I have to take it to another level.
As spiritual beings we continue to make justify our actions and others actions instead of facing up to the truth, realness of our actions. We mistake our subconscious, matter of fact we dont even listen to our subconscious mind and continue to only think with part of our brain. We let our emotional state take over our entire being, in that continuing to release our emotional wounds onto each other... that being said.... If we connect more with our subconscious become aware of our being, our emotional pain we will stop all of the expectation that we have of each other and become truly happy and be able to share that joy instead of causing pain on each.

I am truly sorry you had to experience that...

Life is growth.
Onelove

p.s
probably have no ideal of what Im talking about... I know a great yet basic book...
The mastery of love
by Miguel Ruiz



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IslandsB...

Male, Age Private, Long Beach, CA

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...777....wow..... :) thank you so much for such an enlightened input from the spiritual viewpoint....As for self-reflection and through the self-realization of " I AM" ......what you speak of from above through the insight of the subconscious....is the same as our hidden duality......that Animal and the Godly.....the Physical and the Spiritual........what you speak of is the esoteric and what's being practiced is the exoteric.....it is sad that not so many understand the secrets to LIFE is through creation....of actions and consequences.....we seem to submit to what's not "REAL".....the animal emotion that empowers our thinking of the "BRAIN" instead of the thinking of the "HEART".....therefor e paying the price for karmic debts....I was fortunate enough to discern that my partner then wasn't in the same vibrational atonement as I was.......therefore an imbalance was being created.....the mysticism in my life was being pulled away......I also believe that LOVE, one with spiritual insight combined with spiritual foresight has to be in both partners keeping the fire.....one just cannot sustain alone.........777 Peace :)



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CLOSED

Female, Age Private, Boston, MA

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I read you post with both eyes... and at first I was speechless... because in the beginning its Dampingly Dark and filled with sorrow.. and towards the end theres Al-Nur- Light.

Our past is what makes us who we are today... I send my sympathy... It takes a courageous man to admit to being abused... Upon research my sister found out that there are a lot of men in such a relationship but hardly ever reports time becuase they see it as a sign of weakness... :-(

Forgiveness is key... I know some may think "Are you crazy? But think about it... when you're able to forgive a person for their wrong doing... they no longer take up your mental space or any of your emotioanl thinking... the thoughts of them dims away much like a blown out candle...


Spirituality+ Faith + Love+Knowledge = Complete oness...
But in order to achieve this one can't do it alone...
Companionship is half of ones faith- Why? because what a person may lack their partner can help them achieve (visa versa)... ...

The best feeling is having a spritual connection with a someone because everything else flows and forms with ease...

In my faith we have Shaykhs ( Learned Man... Older man)

Two Shaykhs who never met in each other can come together and hug and cheer on as if they've known each other since birth... Why? Because they're spiritually connected...
The Glowing light between the two becomes bigger... and overwhelms them...

For the simpleton- or average seekers... they'll come across someone that sparks them just the same but unlike the Shaykhs who quickly embrace it... the Simpleton try to understand who or why but never really get the answer they're looking for... Soooo either they let it go... or become like the Shaykh and embrace it... Embrace the person that they're drawn too...

I'm sorry I rambled on... lol



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4u2deliv...

Female, 42, Brooklyn, NY

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Oh my god ! I am so sorry to read about what happened to you. But I am also happy that you found the strength to end an abusive situation on all levels. And you to take the time for self analysis and healing and take it for what is was a life lesson with two beutiful healthy end results your children it does not get any better than that everything else is iscing on the cake.
Sadly we all have our stories my own ended with 14 years of celibacy after catching my ex in the act I will not get into it here but it was devastatiing and my heart physically hurt and felt like it was ripped out I know that was a physical and spiritual reation because that is the ultimate betrayal. I always took time to heal when my relationships ended to heal, regroup and not go down that path again. God is god and we all carry on knowing how humbling and wonderful life can be.
Take care and have a blessed day.



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CLOSED

Female, Age Private, West Palm Beach, FL

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Wow i'm so sorry you had to go through that, I personally know the feel and the affect it can have, i'm just glad you are not allowing it to bring you down and the baggage is left behind, Blessing to you and yours on your journey to what you are looking for



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saotahan559

Female, 25, Fresno, CA

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Wow...I am truly impressed, your words are so touching. It takes a truly strong man to be able to acknowledge their pain in such a manner. I thought something differently of you before because of a certain individual's comment. But after reading this I guess I was wrong, lesson learned on my part. I will definetly take the time to get to know a person instead. By the my friend is going to make a dollar out of your 2cents :)



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