What next....

Posted August 21st, 2008 at 11:01pm

Ok so I am not even sure if anybody is even going to read this, but i just need to rant a little bit, and if people DO decide to read it, id like some feedback.

Disclaimer: this is poorly structured. Just writing watever pops in my head.

Alright, so this is really for the ladies actually. Question...what do you want men to do? I hear so many different things about what women really want from men, and what they want men to do to them. Now get your mind out of the gutter people, I'm not going there at all.

Its always about the nice guy route with me. I go that route just because i think its the RIGHT thing to do. Girls say they like the nice guy but don't tend to follow through with what they say. I don't get it at all. The nice guy is almost always the "friend" that girls go to to bitch about their douchebag boyfriends and yet stay with them, but they are "in love" or think that they will change him. And I'm sure there are a lot of guys out there that understand what I am saying. FYI, you can't change a person, unless they WANT to change. So what is it ladies? why?

Females say the best way to approach them is to, "Just say, 'Hi'" Again, I think thats bullshit, because when that does happen, women are like, "Who the hell is this guy?" And I am sure all the girls reading this, if people are even reading this, are like..."oh no, not all girls are like that"...yadda yadda yadda. You might be right, but a HUGE percentage of you are. It could be at a club, a grocery store, or even a library, it doesn't matter where the situation takes place, about 90% of the time, women will be like, "ummm...who are you? leave me alone." How does one approach the opposite sex without having this angst of rejection 90% of the time?

I think my main thing is that, when two people work sooooooooooo well with each other, why can't things go further? Again, out of the gutter please. Why can't people see what they have right in front of them?

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Simplist...

Female, 35, Columbus, OH

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You know...girls are confusing creatures. It's hard to figure out what they want or how they want to be approached by the opposite sex. Have you ever tried to compliment them..something like this, " I'm sorry to bother you but I just wanted to let you know that I think your beautiful ...blah blah blah..." Try striking up a conversation or something (I bet you have and it didnt' work right?). Have you ever tried humor? I always enjoy a good laugh. Well, if you have tried all and none have work...maybe they are not worth it if they are acting like that.

As for the, "you can't change a person, unless they WANT to change..." I totally understand., been there and done that....it took me 8 years to realize that I need to leave him. That he'll never become the person I would like for him to be so the best way is out for me. I believe that my reason for me to stay with him regardless how crappy he treated me, I was deeply in love with him. We both went through a tragic event together, which had deeply scarred me. To be honest, another reason for me (maybe it's a bit shallow of me to say this) but I had self esteem issues. I didn't and could not accept who I was and how I look as a person physically but he did (in my eyes)...no matter how scarred up and banged up I was he made me feel beautiful when I thought differ of myself. It's kind of lame but that was my reason for staying with him so long.

As for when two people work so well together, well...it depends on your relationship with the opposite sex. I've been there before. Long story short, one of my "brothers" have a thing for me and I found out and got creeped out by it. It's been two months and we haven't spoken yet. Actually, I'm hidding from everyone. How do they veiw you as? Do she see you as family? You should ask her just in curiousity if she dates friends. I always make it clear to all my guy friends that I would never date anyone of them regardless...I just don't want to ruin the friendship if anything happens.


aberfitch

Male, 35, Beaverton, OR

Posted


I know you probably wanted girls to read your blog, but I found it very comedic and funny. I was interested in it after a few lines. So anyways back to this girl subject.

So this is what I use to get to know a girl. I usually meet girls in random places and I always to do simple things like briefly check her out and see if she is receptive to me checking her out and believe me girls know when guys are checking them out. So if she turns and gives you eye contact and you lock guys briefly, most likely it is okay to walk up and say "Hey, how are you doing?" then I casually say "We should hang sometime, so whats your number?" It doesn't always work, cause some girls will be caught off guard and once they are. You'll get this response. "I've got a boyfriend!" At that point its up to you to be the judge on weather she is telling the truth or you surprised her. If you surprised her I just simply give her my number real quick. Most likely 99.9% of the time she well not call you, cause she doesn't want to be give it away that she really doesn't have a boyfriend. but thats not the point. If you get turned down you need to walk away with confidence. The more times you put your self out there. The more chances you got of finding the right girl.


"You don't get what you don't try for!"

I'll leave it at this. I could go on forever, but I don't feel like writing a novel.



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